Learn how to safely support a survivor of domestic violence without causing harm. Practical advice for friends and family.
Support Can Help or Harm
Good intentions are not always enough. Poorly handled support can increase risk for survivors.
What Survivors Need Most
- To be believed
- To be heard
- To feel safe
- To retain control over decisions
What You Should Do
1. Listen Without Judgment
Allow them to speak freely.
2. Believe Their Experience
Validation is critical.
3. Offer Information, Not Pressure
Share options, do not force decisions.
4. Encourage Professional Support
Refer to Safe Haven Foundation or other trusted services.
What You Should Avoid
- Blaming the survivor
- Forcing them to leave immediately
- Confronting the abuser
- Sharing their story without consent
Why This Matters
Survivors often return to unsafe environments when support is mishandled.
Final Message
Support should empower, not control.
